My boyfriend is angry that I got period blood on his sheets. I told him it was an accident and I thought my period was over but it wasn’t. He made me feel pretty embarrassed and ashamed what should I do?

My boyfriend is angry that I got period blood on his sheets. I told him it was an accident and I thought my period was over but it wasn’t. He made me feel pretty embarrassed and ashamed what should I do?

Let me save you some time and some future heartache.

I am going to share with you a few things I learned in therapy after 25 years of marriage to a man who grew up in a “shame-based family system.”

Google this for more information, Shame-based family system.

This is a very toxic and dysfunctional family environment. It is characterized by people who are over-controlling of others. A lot of the family interaction is based on shaming and blaming others.

“Why did you do that? You shouldn’t have done that. You should have done this.”

“Why did you say that? You shouldn’t have said that. You should have said this.”

My new husband not only wanted to control everything I did, he also thought he should instruct me on what to say, and what to think. I felt like I had dated Dr. Jeckyll and married Mr. Hyde. A short time afterward, we were in a bookstore, and I picked up a book with a title similar to “Dated Dr. Jeckyll, Married Mr. Hyde.” When my husband saw the title of the book, he immediately scolded me for looking at the book, and ordered me to put it down. I believe this just proved a point.

Someone who is going to scold, shame and embarrass you for having normal adult female physiology is not going to be pleasant to live with. You can plan on being scolded and criticized for … everything. You will be treated with scorn and contempt by his family members. Holidays will not be pleasant celebrations. They will be uncomfortable ordeals. You will even be blamed for his accidents.

Please, please break up with him now. Never have sex with him again. He is not an asset in your life. He will try to destroy you psychologically (what you think,) and emotionally (what you feel.).

For your own self-worth be available to find a better boyfriend. Stay away from the families that are fueled by shame, anger and/or guilt. These toxic family systems last for generations.

Either wash the soiled sheet or replace it. Then say a firm and final goodbye.

Best wishes, always.

By anonymous.

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Posted by : FLOWERS ZAUBERER December 20, 2021 Tags : productivity , Quora , relationship

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